Many of my clients today are in relationship flux. Many are making the decision to leave relationships that they simply have outgrown and feel tremedously guilty about.  It takes tremendous courage to choose your-Self, to do what is right because others may be hurt by your actions. Following your own heart is the only path to true Love and true happiness.

When I was single, this poem really helped me understand the nuances of soul mates and relationships.  I hope this can help you understand your own journey better. Remember that love is an energy that exists all around us and inside of us. We have to love ourselves before we can truly love someone else. At the ripe age of 40, I am happy to have finally completed this part of the journey and was married two weeks ago to a love-ly Soul man.  He was worth the wait and the struggle.   If I can do it, you can do too.  To your success and happiness, read on:

After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul

And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning

And company doesn’t mean security

And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts

And presents aren’t promises

And you being to accept your defeats

With your head up and your eyes open

With the grace of a woman

Not the grief of a child

And you learn to build all your roads

On today, because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans, and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight

After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much

So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul

Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers

And you learn that you really can endure, that you really are strong, and your really do have worth

And you learn and learn and learn with every goodbye you learn

….. And, with every goodbye there will be a new hello

The sun will rise again

And a new day is born to begin again